On Again Off Again Picks
Ever been in love? Than you know how it feels. It feels like you’re floating on a cloud, and the Honey Moon stage ends. His name is Jayden. He was my everything. But there’s 1 thing I should mention. He’s 12 and I’m 14. When I met him I was 13, and he told me he was 15. We met at a local park, at first I really didn’t notice him. I was the new girl and town and was trying to make girl friends. Well the next day me and this girl Alicia got home from the bowling alley and he was outside. That’s when I really noticed him. I noticed that he was completely gorgeous! I flirted with him a lot. by a lot I mean a lot ! He was distance and I was hurt, but then Alicia told me he had a girlfriend. So I backed off just a little. We went home and his girlfriend inboxed me on facebook. I told Jayden that he needed to stay with him girlfriend in all caps because Alicia told me he was planning on dumping her for me. Well we all got together again and he was looking perfect. I flirted again but this time I didn’t care about his girlfriend. We played football, and sat on the curb talking getting to know each other. He finally gave me a hug after trying all day. And then he went on Alicia’s and typed a note on her iPhone and said that he liked me. Okay me and him started dating we made out a lot , lol. So the next day I texted him and asked him if we’re dating. Because he seemed distance. He told me “I love you I really do, but I just want to be single right now” I cried so hard. But what hurt more is that he got back with his ex a week later. Well 3 weeks later we hung out again and ended up kissing. But he still had a girlfriend. They broke up but me and him still haven’t gotten back together. So then we started hanging back out again, we kissed every time we hung out. And then I found out he kissed my best friend Annie. Did I mention he was a player? Well I fought Alicia 3 weeks later and Jayden stopped talking to me. Me and him just started talking again and ooVooing. But he completely ignores me when I see him. So what!
im asking his how do I got over him? its been months. Sorry this story is long.
I have made some pretty stupid mistakes in my lifetime but there is nothing I can do about them now. So I just have to sit and suffer everyday with the choices I made. When I was 15 year old I met BJ and he was the guy of my dreams. He was the perfect mix of bad boy but nothing too serious just a trouble maker. We started hanging out during the summer and I would miss curfew and sneak out just to spend time with him. It was young love and he was “the one.” When school resumed in the fall, he transferred to my school and everything was perfect. I daydreamed all of the time about our future together and how wonderful everything would be. Then one day out of no where he meets me in our usual spot after school and asks me to walk with him. We got a few blocks down, and he just blurts out that he didn’t want to be in a relationship with me anymore. He said that he was young and wanted to have the freedom to make new friends and date other girls if he wanted to. I was destroyed and it seemed like all he cared about was hooking up with other girls. He didn’t shed a single tear while I stood there crying a river to him, begging him not to end us like that. I stayed home from school for the rest of the week because I couldn’t even pull myself out of bed. When I went back to school a bunch of people kept asking me if I knew that BJ and this girl named Lana were going out. Of course I didn’t and when I saw the two of them holding hands in the hallway, I felt the life leave my body. This was my guy holding hands with some other girl. I had loved and supported him through a bunch of stuff in our 9 months together and I was the one who encouraged him to transfer to my school instead of whatever school the district was going to stick him in. I hated him and Lana.
About a month after BJ and Lana started going out, he starts texting me asking how I’m doing and calling me at random times to say that he was just checking in. Then he told me he missed me and that he wasn’t sure what he wanted anymore. One night BJ came over my house and told me that he had broken up with Lana and wanted to give us another try. He said that he had missed his true love. That was the first night that BJ ever spent the night and it was amazing. We started sneaking around and spending the night together whenever we could. Lana tried to cause a bunch of drama at school with me but I already had what I wanted so there was no reason to fight her. She was just mad that I had won, she tried to steal my man and lost. One weekend, I was with my cousin and a few friends getting dresses for our Spring formal. I had been sick with a flu the past week and still didn’t feel good. While we were at the mall I started to feel awful like I was going to pass out. I got the chills and had horrible stomach pains. My cousin thought something was seriously wrong, so she called my mom to come get me. My mom drove me to the emergency room. They thought I might have appendicitis or something, but they had to do some other tests first. One of the doctors comes back into my room and tells me that I was pregnant. he said something else about seeing my OBGYN and other stuff that I couldn’t hear because I was in total shock. My mom was so mad at me that she didn’t say anything. When we got home she told my dad and they made me call BJ over. When he got there they started yelling at us and asking how we planned to take care of a baby and why we had been so stupid. BJ was pissed, saying that I had done something to trap him and then he got into a huge argument with my dad. I decided that I was keeping the baby because it was the right thing to do. When I went to talk to B at school the next week, he was sitting against the railing on the field with Lana wrapped in his arms! I went crazy and wanted to know what the f#@k was up! He just looked at me like he didn’t even know who I was and says “I’m in high school and you want to play mommy. I’ve got a girlfriend so go find your baby’s daddy or something!” So now I’m going to be raising my baby on my own and I have to get a DNA test to prove that BJ is the dad. Great way to start Junior year!2,177 Comments
My ex, Dustin, seemed to be one of the “perfect” men in the world…boy, was I wrong. I met Dustin when we started working in a home improvement store together. I was working my way through college and he was just working. I was 18 and he was 22, young I know but the stupidity of this relationship was just mind boggling to me then and still to this day.
He was definitely my type of guy and we started texting, then going to lunch together, and then hanging out after work, and then stupidly enough having sex, and then we got into a relationship. Being young we were an on and off couple and I was usually the one to break things off when we did think we needed time apart. He started talking about marriage then it was kids and how he had always dreamed about having a little sidekick (referring only to having a son). That became too much for me being so young and not wanting to give up my college degree before having children so I could provide a good life for them. So I ended things for a while.
My second year of college rolled around and by January we were a couple again and stayed that way. He witnessed my stupidity while driving and I totaled my car by crashing into a tree while he was following me (it was supposed to be going into the shop). I was hospitalized for two days and then released, at that point I lost my job because I couldn’t handle being on my feet constantly. Well, when I lost my job he quit his (living at home with his parents he could afford it). He started going through my text messages and answering my phone, going through my mail, and my FB page. Anything that was personal he went through. If we were out and someone said hello or stopped and talked to me for a moment man or woman he was barking orders at them and asking me a never ending sting of questions about them. Then he set the “ground rules”, I had to be with him from the time I woke up until I went to bed. I wasn’t allowed to have my phone unless he checked it first. And I was not allowed to do anything with any of my friends or family. At this point, I should have ended everything for good, but being young I thought that he loved me and he was just really scared after he watched my serious car wreck. Just being the over protective boyfriend, that I had had many times before. In February, he proposed to me and I finally gave in, knowing it wasn’t what I wanted but I wanted to make him happy. In March, I found out I was pregnant.
I called him and let him know the news and he refused to believe me. I literally had to take a pregnancy test with him watching. The months past and we were fighting constantly, my hormones were raging and I couldn’t keep my emotions in check which is understandable considering my state. In July, we found out that we were having a daughter. His mom, him, and my mom were in the room during the ultrasound. They also told us that there was about a 50% chance that our daughter would have down syndrome. I broke down in tears, which would be a normal reaction for anyone. What is the first thing he says to me once we leave the office, in front of our mothers? “You aren’t having a girl they’re wrong.” After both mothers explain that the doctors weren’t wrong and that the sperm actual makes up the sex of a child he went crazy. He accused me of cheating because he was “only capable of creating tough little boys”. Stupid? Trust me, I know.
The next month I went to a bigger city for a schedule two ultrasound and they let me know that my baby would not have down syndrome that the spot they found was just a build up of calcium. My boyfriend just said, “Well, if the baby comes out retarded it’s not mine.” At that point I was done, he put me into the situation that I was in and had let me know that he did by putting holes in his condoms, but like the good girl my family wanted me to be I was going to stick out for my daughter, although he made me sick at this point. We stopped having sex completely and I stayed home a lot more since I had stopped going to college because he had asked me to. I was getting depressed and not wanting to talk to anyone and a few more months roll by and I’m coping and enormous. In November, he wanted to go out clubbing with his “boys”, I told him to have a good time since I was due in a few weeks and wouldn’t expose myself or the baby to any of that. He told me that if I didn’t celebrate his birthday with him how he wanted we were finished. I, of course, stayed home. At 4 a.m. he is pounding on my door so I let him in. He proceeded to tell me he was not the father of my child and never would and a lot more things, including that he was in love with another girl who was pregnant with his baby.
I was in complete shock, I had never thought that he was cheating on me and here I was pregnant and he had gotten another girl pregnant too. It was a train wreck, my mom kicked him out and called his mom to pick him up on the front porch because she took his keys not wanting him to kill himself before she got the chance to. He then left me alone, I didn’t see or hear from him in the days to follow and I cried a lot. About 5 days later our daughter was born, no one called him or his family but he showed up the next morning some how knowing that I was there and begged me to take him back. I refused, and when I did his new girlfriend walked into my hospital room and said “I told you so” and walked back out.
The nurses and security had to remove him from my room and two months later he was trying to get full custody of my daughter. After all the evidence, he gets to see her two days a month for a total of two hours a day while in my presence and not a drop more.
My daughter is now 8 months old, his now ex-girlfriend’s baby is 5 months old and said that he was crazy controlling and possessive, which I experienced along the way as well.
Karma is a real bitch. I hate it for him, but he gets everything he deserves from it… and someone who is 10x crazier than he is.
Okay, so I met this guy toward Christmas of last year. Me, him and one of my really good friends all had class together and she introduced me to him. She rode the bus with him so I used her to get inside info on if he liked me or not. She told me that he did. I was thrilled we were pretty much the same person I found out. Me and him both had the same issues. At this time though I was just getting out of a relationship and he knew that. So we waited until after break to do anything. We were on and off until summer. We still talked like everyday and he told me that he loved me, and I was the one, and a bunch of bs. Then like two days later through text message he tells me that it won’t work and how he can’t be with me. Now he’s telling me that he misses me and how I need to come back, and calling me baby which he’s never done. So yeah I dont know what to do.2,210 Comments
Ok, here it is: I had this friend of mine, Luke, who was my best friend at all. We had met thanks to my boyfriend of a few years ago. Well, when I left him, Luke and I kept in contact, until we got very close. After a lot of time, like almost a couple of years of friendship, he comes up and tells me that he feels something for me. I admit it’s probably been a stupid move by me, but when he tried to kiss me I just kissed him back. So we started this story, we even went to holiday together, I was surprisingly fine with him. We lasted about six months or so, then I sort of got tired of the relationship, and I feared that we wouldn’t have been able to recollect our pieces and put our friendship back together as we planned to do in that case. So I preferred to leave him before to mess it up and end hating each other. We didn’t talk for a while, then we started going out and doing “friends stuff”… but in a moment we found ourselves discussing about the possibility of having a sexual relationship, which we began a few minutes later. Anyway, we kept like this for months, interrupting it for a few weeks as I had met a person who I really cared about. It lasted, sweetly and happily, I was kind of getting involved with this not only physically, and he was showing kind of the same… until today, when Luke, asking me for a friendly help with a girl he met (which is fine, i mean, he did it for me, I do it for him, we are still best friends), comes up with the story that he HAD sex with her already, they go around holding each other and kissing in public, and, moreover, two days ago they politely decided to start a “just fun” relationship. So we’re just over. We made up like three days ago, last time. YOU SH+++Y MINDED IDIOT, DON’T YOU THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE TOLD ME THIS BEFORE, MF?!1,399 Comments
I am only 17 years old. I thought I had met the love of my life of course being young a naive. When we first met, everything was so perfect to me and he was all I ever thought about. We could not go a day without seeing each other. He would go to the end of the world and back for me. He would do anything for me. 2 months later he told me that he loved me and I wasn’t ready to say that to him because I had never been “in love” before. Then we got into a fight and broke up, I was devastated and we worked it out the next day. Things slowly started going downhill and we were fighting everyday after a while. We dated for 6 months and suddenly he changed his mind about me and I found out he was telling another girl he loved her which really hurt me. We broke up and I was crying for three days straight. Three weeks had passed and I couldn’t get over him. I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I had begged for him forever, when I stopped begging for him that’s when he came back to me, but after he came back I actually took him back which was the biggest mistake of my life. The very next day he told Paige he loved her and dumped me again. We decided to become friends about a week later and friends led to other things. We had been dating for two weeks or so…and here he goes again. He ran back to Paige for the third time. If you ask me I think that’s a pretty harsh way to get dumped. But i’m over it and i’m ready to move on without him.269 Comments