Like an 18 year old idiot, I hopped on a bus the week after I graduated and left home to go stay with my 26 year old online boyfriend. We had first met on a gaming site when I was 16 and we had talked on the phone and video chatted ever since that day. This move had been in the making for over a year and I had literally counted down the days. I couldn’t wait to be with my love in person, and to build the life we had dreamed of. My aunt and uncle had raised me ever since I was 3. My mom was a druggie who would rather sleep around and go on binges than take care of her child, so they took me in when she lost custody. They officially adopted me when I was 6 and they had always been my mom and dad. I loved them to death but I had to grow up and start to build a family of my own.
When I got there, things were a little different than I expected, and from what he had claimed them to be. The “nice place” he had was more like a decent motel at best and he barely worked part time. Even though I was a little dissapointed by the state of things when I got there, I decided to look past it and focus on us. This was our beginning, there was plenty of time for us to make more. When I finallt spoke with my parents to let them know where I was, they were so sad and dissapointed. My aunt actually cried and pleaded with me to come home. I tried to explain my side of things, but they just kept telling me how dumb I was being and demanding that I come home. I knew they wouldn’t understand and would try to stand in the way of our love, so I told them that I was an adult and could make my own decisions.
My sweet dreams slowly turned into a bad dream. My boyfriend spent ALL of his time gaming (outside of the 18 hours he worked every week). He had the poorest hygiene ever, and would only take a shower every few days at best. He smelled so bad sometimes that I would have to drop major hints for him to clean up. The apartment was always a mess, and I was the only one who ever cleaned. I found a job working at a department store and would put in 30+ hours on top of my full time schedule at school. I loved gaming, but I had real life dreams that I was working toward. We started arguing a lot because I was so tired of having to take care of the both of us. My breaking point came when I causght him taking naked pics of himself on his webcam. It turned out that he had been chatting with a couple other girls and carrying on an online relationship with one of them. I went into a rage. Here I had abandoned my family and friends, given up my life at home, to spend my time working my butt off just to keep us afloat. He acted like it was no big deal. He was very passive and smug about the whole situation, like him cheating was no big deal because it was online. I unplugged the power strip that was connected to all of his gadgets and the modem. He started screaming and knocled over a corner table. Then he told me to leave, to hitchhike if I had to, just get out and never come back. He said that he had never intended for us to be serious. That I was just one in his collection of online relationships, and that I had stuck around so long that he felt obligated to me. I was hurt but also strangely relieved. Like I had been released from the burden of this relationship. I packed my things and went to a hotel to stay. It took a few days, but I finally convinced my folks to drive down over the weekend and bring me home. All I could do was ride silently, apologizing every now and then and not arguin back against anything they said. I just wanted to be home. I realized that I had left hoping to start my own “real” family, but that I had had that all along in my aunt and uncle. That was further solidified in my mind when my uncle accepted a call from a co-worker and told him that he was taking a few days off next week to help get his daughter settled in at home.10,950 Comments
Ever been in love? Than you know how it feels. It feels like you’re floating on a cloud, and the Honey Moon stage ends. His name is Jayden. He was my everything. But there’s 1 thing I should mention. He’s 12 and I’m 14. When I met him I was 13, and he told me he was 15. We met at a local park, at first I really didn’t notice him. I was the new girl and town and was trying to make girl friends. Well the next day me and this girl Alicia got home from the bowling alley and he was outside. That’s when I really noticed him. I noticed that he was completely gorgeous! I flirted with him a lot. by a lot I mean a lot ! He was distance and I was hurt, but then Alicia told me he had a girlfriend. So I backed off just a little. We went home and his girlfriend inboxed me on facebook. I told Jayden that he needed to stay with him girlfriend in all caps because Alicia told me he was planning on dumping her for me. Well we all got together again and he was looking perfect. I flirted again but this time I didn’t care about his girlfriend. We played football, and sat on the curb talking getting to know each other. He finally gave me a hug after trying all day. And then he went on Alicia’s and typed a note on her iPhone and said that he liked me. Okay me and him started dating we made out a lot , lol. So the next day I texted him and asked him if we’re dating. Because he seemed distance. He told me “I love you I really do, but I just want to be single right now” I cried so hard. But what hurt more is that he got back with his ex a week later. Well 3 weeks later we hung out again and ended up kissing. But he still had a girlfriend. They broke up but me and him still haven’t gotten back together. So then we started hanging back out again, we kissed every time we hung out. And then I found out he kissed my best friend Annie. Did I mention he was a player? Well I fought Alicia 3 weeks later and Jayden stopped talking to me. Me and him just started talking again and ooVooing. But he completely ignores me when I see him. So what!
im asking his how do I got over him? its been months. Sorry this story is long.
I’ll spare the stupid details and try to keep this as short and to the point as possible. I just got dumped by the biggest cry baby of a man on earth! I never thought it was possible for an adult his age to have the rationale of a five year old, but he proved otherwise. Sammy and I dated for around 5 months. It started off like most other relationships until he threw his first full-blown tantrum. We were going to see a new movie. I suggested that we get there early but Sammy thought otherwise. He said he didn’t want to go and sit around the movie theatre waiting for the show to start. When we got there, we found out that the movie was sold out for the night. Sammy got so mad. He started cursing and kicked a garbage can over. Then, he starts in on me and how it was my fault there missing the movie and how I should have been smart enough to plan ahead. Things cooled off and we moved on. Then a few weeks ago, he got pulled over for speeding and got a $400 ticket. At first, he laughed about it, then he started complaining about how I had rushed him and caused him to speed. He tossed the ticket into my lap and tells me that I needed to take care of it ASAP. Next thing I know, we are arguing and then he goes into psycho mode. He called me all kinds of names then told me to f**k off, that he was done wasting his time on me. I left in tears and haven’t really spoken to him since. He won’t take my calls or return any of my messages. I don’t want to talk to him about us being together or anything, I just want closure and the chance to tell him how I feel about him for once.8,879 Comments
Three years ago, I was happy and in love with my boyfriend of 4 years, Micah. We had met right after we graduated college, and had been living together for nearly a year. We were that couple that was practically already married, so it was no surprise when we announced our engagement. I was busy with work as a hospital unit coordinator, so I didn’t jump right into wedding planning. We both wanted a simple wedding, but didn’t want to rush anything just for the sake of getting to the altar. Micah had this core group of friends, some of them I loved and others I wasn’t too fond of. The main reason I didn’t like a few of his friends was because they were dogs. There had been several occasions when their girlfriends had called me crying over finding something on his phone or computer. There were even times when a friend of his would show up at our place late at night with some random girl. They would sleep in our guest bedroom and do God’s knows what, and I was supposed to turn a cheek to it and act like I didn’t see anything. It made me feel horrible, but I didn’t know how to tell their girlfriends without causing a bunch of trouble for everyone.
Micah and his friends went on this annual trip together. It was something they had done since college and this year they were heading just about an hour away to watch our NFL team’s training camp. They left Thursday morning and I didn’t hear from Micah until Friday afternoon. Well, I had heard from him via one text where he said “Made it. About to eat. Call you later.” That was it and he didn’t answer any of my calls. I knew he was excited about the trip, so I just gave him space to enjoy himself and didn’t bother calling. I talked to him again on Sunday, when he let me know that they were heading home Monday morning. When he got back, I asked him about the trip and he told me about everything they had done, but afterward, seemed uncomfortable and distant. He was like that for another week. Each time I asked him what was wrong, he would just say nothing. He went from distant to completely zoned out when we were together. He had all of a sudden found some game on his phone that he couldn’t pull himself from and kept going for walks or short outings by himself.
My gut told me that something was up, so when he was in the shower, I decided to take a peek at his phone but it was locked. He had never had a lock on it before, so now I was almost certain something was going on. That evening, I sat down and demanded to know what the hell was going on. He denied and denied that there was anything, then slowly he started opening up. He said that he had realized a few things on the trip and wasn’t sure he was ready to be married. Then, he admits to hanging out with some girl. After several questions, he comes out and says that they had slept together several times that weekend and had been talking ever since. I went ballistic! He had cheated on me and then carried on with talking to her right in front of me. We started arguing back and forth, and next thing I know he says that he can’t help that he’s fallen in love with the girl. That something clicked when they met each other and he just felt right with her. He said that he could see himself with her, ya know if it wasn’t for that small detail of him being engaged to someone else! I was sick. It was like some sick joke. I had never in my life been so tempted to want to hurt someone than I was at that moment. I hated him, and the worst part was that he didn’t see why I was as upset as I was. He told me that I should be glad that he was honest, that he he didn’t carry on with seeing her behind my back. Thanks for considering my feelings a$$hole! Micah told me that he wasn’t sure about his feelings and asked that I give him the chance to feel both relationships out before deciding where he belonged. Ha! Yea, no problem, go cheat on me with some girl you fell in love with two weeks ago, I’ll be right here waiting for you – NOT!9,085 Comments
This breakup happened to me when I was in grade eleven. I’m now 24 and married, I’m not sure where the guy is.
I had met Brody when I was dating one of his friends, the guy I was dating just wasn’t ready for a relationship and we just stopped going out, neither of us were disappointed. Brody was short and somewhat different looking but his personality and love of life was what attracted me to him. He was always surrounded by friends and doing something fun. Before I had met him I only had a couple friends and loved the idea of having a large group of people that was always around.
Brody and I hit it off immediately and started hanging out as friends shortly after I stopped seeing the other man. We would go for drives and hang out in his garage while him and his friends worked on his car. I would go to all of his hockey and rugby games. It was great. We always seemed to be doing something fun.
A few weeks after we started hanging out he asked me to be his girlfriend, I was ecstatic. We want to all of his dances together and spent everyday hanging out or going to parties. Everything seemed to be perfect until one evening when we went to a beach party. His best friend Jamie got extremely drunk and decided that skinny dipping in front of his friends was the right thing to do. We quickly decided it was time to drive him home. On the drive home Jamie was crying in the back seat because him and his long term girlfriend had broken up a few weeks back and he was rambling on about how much he loved her. Brody and I were silent in the front seat. A few moments passed and Brody said, “You know, I love you a lot.” I was shocked, Brody had a track record of girlfriends but none that he ever said I love you to. I stuttered a reciprocating I love you too but it didn’t sound sincere because I was so shocked. We continued the drive home, dropped Jamie off and then he took me home.
My parents were strict when I was in high school so I wasn’t allowed to stay out past midnight or stay over at a boyfriend’s house.
Over the next few weeks the weather continued to get warmer and we continued to go to parties and have fun but he seemed to be getting distant more and more every time we saw each other. He started to go out without me and make excuses for why I couldn’t come, I was really disappointed because I had began to really love the people we were hanging around with. I should have seen the signs where it was going but I didn’t want it to happen so bad.
The last day I ever saw Brody he was going to his friend’s cottage on a lake about 30 minutes from where we live and said he didn’t have room in his car for me to come but he wished I could have. My parents volunteered to drive me down to the lake so that I could spend the day there. When I arrived I was greeted with all of his friends who were excited to see me and immediately poured me a drink. I asked around where Brody was but no one knew. I was getting the vibe that he didn’t want to see me but I needed to just hear it from him. When I finally found him he was hiding in another friend’s cottage. I tried to confront him but he ran away. I was really surprised. I then noticed him walking on the beach with one of his girl friends, they were talking and suddenly she walked away from him and was coming right towards me. She told me that Brody wanted to break up with me but didn’t want to tell me in person so he asked her to do it. I wasn’t shocked, I was just disappointed because I felt like I was going to lose all the friends I had made by being with him. I was disappointed that I had driven all the way to this lake to see him because he made it seem like he wanted me to be there but had just lied when he said his car was full. I started crying and the girl told me not to bother. I just shook my head and walked away to call my parents and get them to take me home. They had no problem coming to get me. I was so embarrassed that this happen in front of so many people.
After we broke up I never saw Brody again. I got over it soon after realizing I was more attached to the fun lifestyle then the man himself. I never again got to hang out with that crowd of people.2,302 Comments
I was visiting with my aunt and uncle about an hour away from my hometown this summer. I have always been very close to them and their daughter who is my age. She and I were like sisters growing up, so it was hard when they moved away. Since they weren’t too far, we were always visiting each other. It was my turn to visit her, so I was up for the week since there was no school. On Sunday we went to church with her parents. My aunt and uncle were helping out with the refreshments after the service, so my cousin and I went outside to hang out since the weather was already so nice. We were sitting near the garden, just sharing stories and pics, when these guys approached us. They were two teenage boys I had seen around at the church but had never really talked to. They introduced themselves and we spent the next hour getting to know each other. It turned out that they were cousins too. We decided to meet up later downtown and grab some food.
My cousin was always more forward than me when it came to guys, so she had no problem getting cozy with her guy Taylor. The cousin I met up with was Brian and he seemed to be just as shy as I was. But within a few minutes we were laughing and holding hands. He went in for a kiss before we could even order our food. He and I separated from the other two and walked around downtown together, then we went over to the lakeside to watch the sunset. He told me that he really liked me and asked if I would consider being his girlfriend after we got to know each other a little more. I spent the next week with my cousin and Brian. My cousin and I were able to convince our parents to let me stay another week, before we went back to my house. She started going out with Taylor and Brian asked me to be his girlfriend. It was my first relationship and I was so excited (I’m just 15). Brian and I were either on the phone when I was at home or together whenever I was visiting my cousin’s house. It felt like we had known each other for years. He kept asking if I would be willing to move up with my aunt and uncle, so that I could be near him all the time. I liked him a lot, and we were getting closer, but I had a life at home that I didn’t just want to walk away from. Brian started saying that he loved me, and I thought it was cute, like a summer love thing. But with that, he started asking me more and more to move but I didn’t want to. I loved my life at home, and though I loved being with my family up his way too, wasn’t just going to abandon my family and friends at home to be closer to him.
A couple weeks ago, he called me and sounded down. I asked him if there was anything that he wanted to talk about, but he said that he was fine just tired. Brian said that he was going to take a quick nap and call me back. About a half hour later, my cousin called me. We talked everyday, so I didn’t think much of it. She said that she had bad news for me. Then she told me that Taylor had called her to ask her to break up with me for Brian…..huh?! Basically, Brian had called Taylor to call my cousin to call me to dump me. I don’t know if I was more upset by the breakup or the fact that he had to go through two other people to do it. I got off the phone with my cousin and immediately called Brian but he wouldn’t answer. I haven’t talked to him since, but from what I heard he is mad at me for not moving up there. I liked having a boyfriend, but I’m not going to let anyone dictate what I do and where I live, especially someone I’ve known for all of 2 months!2,088 Comments