This is not your typical break up, sob, sob, story, but I feel like telling it.
I worked with this guy for a couple years n the whole time he’s flirting n joking around with me. I never took it seriously as he was such a card. He ends up leaving the job for another but we stay friends. One day I dropped by to see him & look over a few things that were for sale in the shop he worked at. During normal conversation he again flirts with me but this time I can tell he’s dead ass serious. This totally blows my mind as I’d never thought I was in his league & could really see myself having SERIOUS feelings for this guy. Being in a relationship at the time, I backed away, didn’t see or talk to him for over a year. Then I again find myself in the market for the products he sells at the shop, so no longer in a relationship I drop by. He seems excited to see me & even tells me so by text after I leave. He also continues to flirt so I plainly ask why he was barking up my tree. He said same as always so I flirt back, I let him know that I’d rather have him in my life as a friend than not at all & he keeps on, this goes on for months, but we never get together. Finally we have some time alone n talk then when I go to leave he hugs me & kisses me gently on the cheek. Very sweet move as we seemed to be transitioning from just friends to more. We keep talking over the next few months n suddenly he needs back into the industry I’m in & a job. So being a good friend (possibly more), I jump in, get him a job & back into the industry. I was actually his boss at this point but we always worked well together so it wasn’t an issue. This only lasted a few weeks when he pulls me to the side n confides in me he has other more lucrative job offers now. Being his age n needing good benefits when my company offered none, I told him I couldn’t blame him. It was all I could do to get his job back here let alone get him more $ & benefits. My hands were tied so being a good friend again I told him I wasn’t angry just disappointed. His voice cracked as he told me he would be too, as knew that I was disappointed we wouldn’t be seeing or talking to each other much anymore. We talked more about his job offers & which he should take, despite my warnings he took what I considered the less lucrative one. Soon he was texting he had made a mistake but turns out the other company was still interested as I had heard through the grapevine & texted him immediately. Soon he was with the company he wanted & working out of town a lot, making union wages/benefits. I was happy for him but still so heart broken I cried at times. I tried several times to get together with him to no avail for one reason or another so I gave up on it. Then a couple weeks later I get a text asking another favor, so again I jump in & get it taken care of for him only to not be able to get with again! I had actually had $ out of pocket for this favor so I offer up everything/anything to get with him only to get no response time & again. I’m late paying my cell bill cause my $ is tied up in this favor. It’s been two weeks now & I haven’t heard a word. I had to dip into my savings to cover things & still haven’t heard a thing from him. Talk about feeling used. Funny how you can feel so used n never even have an intimate relationship w/ someone.