Back when I was 17, I had just moved back home from living interstate with some family. I ended up having a major blue with my older sister about my independence, as I was almost 18 and had a 7pm curfew. I was moved to a youth refuge in the city where I stayed for 3 or 4 months, with a few stays in hospital for unexplained staph infections/sepsis. While studying to get my Cert II in hospitality I met my biggest mistake. Lets call him J. At first he was sweet, caring, all he did was compliment me. I enjoyed my time with him and every week I’d spend the 2 overnights I got in a row with him. The refuge ended up kicking me out due to their own error (they were pretty dodgy) so J let me live with him. Things were amazing… for about a week. I soon discovered that he didn’t like to ask permission for sex and didn’t like to use protection. In fact he didn’t like waiting for me to wake up before he had his way. He was abusive but luckily for me we were sharing a house with 2 friends and every time he went to hit me our friend would intervene and stop him. It wasn’t easy and I’d soon had enough. Breaking point came when I found him in the city with another girl hanging off of him. He introduced us and said “she’s coming home with us!”. As soon as we got home, he went off and got high. It wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be until he called her into our bedroom and shut the door behind them. 10 minutes later they both come out giggling and red-faced, he was smug and she was a little uncomfortable from then on. We had a huge fight after that. I left him and he followed me threatening to stab everyone he saw until I came back to him. when I called his bluff he started sobbing on my shoulder. I told him I’d had enough and I couldn’t handle being treated like dirt. I had some dramas for a few months after that but that’s all subsided now. 3 years on, I’m 20 and have found the love of my life, and there will be no one else but him. J is a distant memory and I should never have gotten involved but if I didn’t I wouldn’t be where I am now.