My name is Jenna and I am 16 years old. I had my baby in January, and we named him Ashton. My boyfriend Eli was in love with him from day 1, but was moody with me all the time and our problems ended up leaving me alone and pissed off!
Eli and I were together for 5 months before I got pregnant. We had met at my friend’s house one day when I was there hanging out. My friend’s boyfriend came through with a bunch of his friends and Eli wouldn’t stop flirting with me. We had been drinking that day so I was acting really goofy and kept falling. One time I fell and Eli caught me and held me, then he kissed me. He asked me to come outside and smoke with him and he kissed me again when we got out there. We started hanging out a lot and he asked me to be his girlfriend.
I was on the pill but sometimes I would forget to take them but I figured that as long as I had taken it the day before or something that it was still in my system so I couldn’t get pregnant. I thought that my pills were messing up my period but when I went to get my refill on my birth control pills they gave me a pregnancy test. I was shocked when my results came back positive. My mom was so mad but she calmed down and said that she would support my decision. I went over to Eli’s and we sat on the porch swing. I told him that I was pregnant and he thought I was joking. When I told him that I was serious he just said “so you’re going to get an abortion?” I told him no, that I wanted to keep the baby. He said that he needed to get things together so I went home. We barely talked over the next week. He wasn’t answering my calls or texts and if I did catch him he would just say that he was busy and had to go. He called me on Saturday and said that he wanted to see me. I was relieved that we were good again. When he came over he told me that he wasn’t ready for a baby and that he felt like I had gotten pregnant to keep him. I refused to have an abortion, we were having our baby and he was going to have to grow up and take care of it.
Things got rocky after that. We were always arguing about something and he just kept saying that he was trapped. When our son was born he got really sweet and he said that he loved that baby no matter what. When we got out of the hospital, Eli came to help us get settled, then he went home. He didn’t come back for 3 days. I was mad that he left me by myself to take care of the baby and I told him that he needed to stay to take care of his responsibility. He just stood there and said that he didn’t want any of this, that I was trying to grow up too fast and play house. He told me that he wanted to be a good father to Ashton but that he didn’t want to be with me. He abandoned his family right then. Now he keeps trying to come and get Ashton to take him to his house and do stuff with him, but I told him it’s the both of us or nothing. What really has me mad is that I found out he has another girlfriend, so now there is no way that he is getting our son. I’m going to file for full custody and change Ashton’s last name. He has never taken care of him and money isn’t all he needs, he needs a real dad!