I was with my girlfriend for 2 years. When we first got together, she had a part time job and was living with roommates. Within the first few months, that whole situation fell apart for reasons I didn’t find out until way later, and she asked if she could move in with me. I figured it would work temporarily because I didn’t think that we were at the point of thinking about living together on a permanent basis because we hadn’t known each other more than 4 months. I went to her place, helped her pack up her stuff, broke up a fight between her and her friend, then took her to the storage place and paid for 6 months of storage (I didn’t anticipate the situation lasting that long but I got a better deal that way). 2 weeks later, she calls me in the middle of the day and tells me that she can’t handle her boss anymore and that she up and quit her job. I asked her about her plans for an income and she said that she would figure it out right away. She then proceeded to spend the next 2 months sleeping in late, hanging out with her friends and not really doing anything to find another job. There were so many times that I felt like I should just end it, but there was something else about the girl that I just couldn’t let her go. Before I knew it, a whole year had passed and she still wasn’t working. By now she openly admitted that she wasn’t looking to go back to work and referred to herself as a “stay-at-home girlfriend” I told her that I didn’t see a situation like that working. I mean, we didn’t have kids or anything, we didn’t even have a pet, and we both cleaned up so there was absolutely no reason for her to be home every day all day. She tried to sweet talk me about pleasing me whenever I would bring up the topic of her getting a job. She felt like sex was enough to cover her half of things.
Every other weekend, I play in a flag football league with a few buddies. At first, she never wanted to go to our games because they were too early in the morning. After I started telling her more about how much fun they were and all about my friends in the league, she was really excited about going. She had a great time and even suggested that we have a barbecue and invite my team over. It was great that she was becoming a bigger part of my life but we still had a few things that needed to be fixed before I would consider taking the next step with her. Time passed and things still hadn’t changed. I had tried every way I could to make her understand that she needed to start looking for a job, but she never took me seriously.
My breaking point came when I got a call from my friend Greg. He told me that he wasn’t trying to get anything started but that he wanted me to check my email ASAP. A little about Greg: He owns his own business, is a good looking guy (from another guy’s perspective), and drives a nice car. I went to my home office and checked my email. The email from Greg had no less than 20 screenshots of Facebook and text messages to him from my girlfriend. She was basically trying to get an affair started, and when he rejected her saying that she was in a relationship with his good friend, she offered to leave me for him. I was disgusted. This was all because he had money. I was comfortable, but Greg had more money than me. She was nothing more than a gold digger. I called her ex-friend and roommate and asked if she knew of any other relationships with her going after a man for money and she told me that that was the reason they had that huge fight, because she was fed up with her bringing men back to their house even though she was supposed to be in a relationship with me. I called Greg later that day and asked him to play along with her. To act like he finally gave in and agree to have her leave me. We set the whole thing up perfectly! I went to work the following Monday and when I got back, her bags were packed and she was telling me that she had fallen out of love and how her and Greg had become close and that he had approached her weeks ago and told her that he wanted to take care of her and show her love he knew she wasn’t getting from me (I knew she was lying). I acted upset and insulted, but let her go. Greg skyped me and left the video chat running until she got there. The doorbell rang, he answered the door. She tried to come in with some of her stuff but he stopped her. He said to her “you think I would even sleep with your sleazy ass after you use my friend and then leave him for someone else?! Ha! I’d be the biggest idiot in the world. You got what you deserved. Get the f*ck outta here!” She stared crying and saying how much she liked him and how she wanted to prove that she could keep him happy, but he just closed the door in her face and locked the deadbolt. Not even an hour later, and she is banging on my door crying, saying that she had made a huge mistake. I didn’t even respond. I didn’t care if she had nowhere to go, I wasn’t going to do her a single favor. She left after a couple hours and after calling my house and cell phone a total of 136 times. I don’t know where she went, I don’t care. I haven’t talked to her since even though she calls me several times a day and stops by from time to time. I’ve already moved on. I’m not going to cry over her or think about what I could have done differently. She was after something that I wasn’t willing to provide.