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3 Separate Breakups
Well I will try to keep this short and sweet, the first break up I will tell you about is from my first son’s father. He was 28 and I was 19 when we started dating, shortly after I moved in with him and lost connection with my family and friends because he was very controlling, I found I was pregnant (my son was planned by both of us) and the day I tell M, he drove me to an abortion clinic and told me to choose between him or my son, I chose my unborn son, M was also abusive he never hit me, but he would tie me up in a bath tub and run the water and tell me I better figure out how to get out before I drowned. or try to suffocate me with blankets and such, after I chose to keep the baby we get back to our place and he puts all my stuff outside and told me to find a way home, I haven’t talked to my family in months because of him and didn’t have a cell phone because I wasn’t allowed, my family also lived about 45 minutes away. So I walked about 6 miles to a friends house and called my mom, told her what happened and she came and got me. Well when my son was 3 months old one of mine and M’s mutual friends and I start talking we eventually hook up and everything is fine for the most part, but he was a player so to speak. when my son was 6 months old I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd. He already had 2 kids with someone else, so I guess my child was important. He never believed he was his. And to this day 6 years later neither one of them have seen their children.
Which brings us to C, I have known C for 17 years our parents are next door neighbors, well I was 24 and he had just turned 19 when we started talking, I had been single for 2 years because I only wanted to focus on my boys and trying to be a mama and daddy to them both. C was great to my boys he did everything for them and treated them like they were the greatest kids on earth ( my older two children are mixed with black, not that it matters but where I’m from to find a white man that accepts your children for who they are instead of race is something) Anyway, we start making plans of having our own child, I’m a little apprehensive because of how the last two turned out. But on 4th of July we find out we are going to have a baby, everything had been going great, no major fights or anything, then his long lost friend pops back into his life, and it starts going downhill, he starts wanting to go out with his friends more and all this, I tried to be understanding because of his age and the fact that he had taken on so much responsibility with me and my first two. but the last straw was my birthday weekend I found out he wanted to go to a bonfire instead of spending any of it with me. So I broke it off, only to realize what a huge mistake that was, and tried asking him back, he told me not right now, that he just wanted to be single for a while. well I found out he had started talking to other girls one that was about to go to prison, and one that was his bestfriends “baby mama”, I was heart broken. He never cheated on me, and never slept with these girls, I knew I wanted him back and didn’t want to face raising a 3rd child by myself, so I played it off, told him we should still have sex since I was pregnant with his child and all, and that I was fine with just sex…In March I had our son, him and his whole family was there, he stayed the whole weekend at the hospital with me, and then after I brought the baby home, he was coming over every day to see him, but with him being a newborn he slept all the time so we would cuddle on the couch, and play around with each other. We eventually decided to work things out when our son was a month old, our son is now 1 and a half, we have our own house, a mini van and a truck, we are getting married in September and my older two boys call him daddy, he never mistreated them, his family even bought them Christmas and birthday presents while we were broken up. He played with them every time he saw them (which was alot, seeing as how his mom lives next to my dad). I’ve never been happier, and think our time apart only made us a better couple for now.
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Uggggghhhh… please be a troll. Please.
Has anyone ever seen the movie Idiocracy? It’s happening….
I’m not going to rip you a new asshole for your grammar because that would take me too long. Instead, I’m going to take the time to spell out for you why your marriage is doomed to fail.
I cannot fault you for wanting to keep your child. However, I cannot fathom why the hell you would plan a pregnancy with an abusive man. Stupid.
I also cannot understand why after successfully getting away from the first clusterfuck, you create another clusterfuck by getting pregnant with another child with someone you have only known for 3 months and already know he has 2 other kids with someone else. STUPID.
Now after the first two fuckups, you manage to rope someone else into your clusterfuck who is barely a man themselves, and plan to have a child with them before you are even married. STUPID, STUPID, STUPID. I already know your “marriage” is doomed to fail, and here is why:
1. He probably did slept around during the time he was single.
2. You allowed him to use you for sex without any commitment so you could try to rope him back in.
3. You just admitted to us that you don’t want to face raising a 3rd child alone.
You are right OP, you guys appear to be a better couple “for now.” Just keep that “for now” part in the back of your head, because you have no idea just how true that is going to be in another year or two.
I’m going to go ahead and give you a preemptive congratulations on your 4th child from yet another man, since we all know that is what is going to happen. Any takers on when she finally stops having kids?
Haha, I wrote did slept. This is what happens when you read too many trailer park stories like this.
Wow. I tend not to judge women for having multiple partners in a short span of time, but this is a situation where I feel the need to tell OP to close her legs. You have 3 children now, and although 2 of them were “planned”, you never give any indication of giving them a stable life. Do you have a job OP? Any source of income to better your children’s lives? And what sane 24 year old woman plans a baby with a 19 year old guy?
Ah yet another story where my taxes are paying for you and your lazy scum baby daddies to lay around and make babies for my taxes to support as well. Awesome.
I seriously hate people. That’s all I can come up with right now. I’m just so annoyed I can’t even type. Who wants to volunteer for the gina punch on this one?
Oh, I get it….. Your “plan” was to get pregnant by these men with the hopes that perhaps one of them would stick around to support you and your kids. See how well that worked out? Doesn’t sound like you have too many brain cells working, OP, so your best bet is to keep your legs together and figure out how you, and you alone, are going to raise these kids. #3 is going to skip before too long, guaranteed!
I got a single sentence in before I got the familiar “this person is a blithering twit” feeling. I didnt bother to go any farther.
Stop. Having. Children. If you can’t afford rubbers, send me your address and I’ll ship some to you. For fuck’s sake.
Actually, I have a job and support my own children, me nor my kids have ever been on welfare I have my own house and own my vehicles, so no your money doesn’t pay for me to sit around. 2nd I knew my 2nd child’s father for 3 years, not sure where you got 3 months from. 3rd my plan was never to find some guy to take care of my kids, “C” decided to take that responsibility without me asking him too. And since when does age matter? So if the only issue you seem to have is me having children because your oh so afraid your taxes are paying for us…then judge all you want, it’s your God given right.
Keep having kids with every dude who looks at you cross eyed then you will be. Giner punch for you! Hadouken!!!!
lol, do you guy’s have nothing better to do than sit around and judge people for how they live their lives? I think you taking care of your children is great, that is something that a lot of people can’t say (especially the ones that are too busy judging other people and staying online 24/7)And I hope you and “C” have a wonderful marriage and many years of happiness. It shouldn’t matter to all these people that you have 3 children with the 3 different guys, but of course they have nothing better to do than sit on the internet and read all these stories and put their 2 cents where it isn’t needed.
Not you, you’re a moron. The reason for a comments section is to comment. If you don’t like the comments, don’t read them.
And I’m only on the internet 1/7.
Moron.
Kelly, you’re a moron, too. I hope your marriage works out, because it will cost you a fortune if it doesn’t. Sounds like you still live in your mom’s house. And you didn’t mention having a job. So, your mom gave you a car. Must be nice to be in the 1%.
Thank you to whoever you are that doesn’t judge, and to Moron caller READ, I have a job, my own house, and bought my own car, and truck!
Kelly,
“Knowing” someone for 3 years and then dating them for 3 months is completely different. I’ve “known” my next door neighbor for 25 years. Doesn’t mean that I know enough about him to know what he is like behind closed doors. Could be a serial killer for all I know.
If you supposedly knew the second father that well for 3 years, then you should have known him well enough to know that he was a player. You were stupid and still are stupid, end of story. You are 24 years old, you don’t know shit and you have piss poor judgement. One would think after having 2 children out of wedlock, you would have learned to keep your legs closed and at least get married before you started squeezing out more crotch spawn.
I don’t believe for one second that you have any sort of decent paying job because your writing skills are indicative of someone who didn’t finish high school.
Not You – Ummmm…comments aren’t needed in the COMMENT section? If people don’t want to be judged, then they should keep their stories to themselves. Who on Earth posts personal stories like “I’ve been knocked up three different times by three different guys” on the internet and expects love bugs and “way-to-gos!!!”
That’s right….only MORONS.
Having a job, house and cars is nice. You forget that your kids don’t have their biological fathers because you chose to let yourself get pregnant to pieces of shit. You knew they were bad people…Now do you realize why it’s important to get married before you have kids? You should have figured that out sooner!
Holy hell in a handbasket, OP– You are prone to seriously bad choices. I will be extremely impressed if this “marriage” to a man-child lasts pasts the 7 year mark.
And a 19 year old that would rather go be a kid and date other girls is the BEST you’ve seen…. that’s so sad.
Mark my words… you’re going to go through it all over again as soon as he gets himself a quarter life crisis and decides he’s spent all his youth being a husband and a dad and needs to live it up to make up for it.
I applaud you for choosing to raise your sons instead of taking an aborsh for the easy, irresponsible out– but please do what you can to hang onto this guy you picked. I worry about what kind of man you would take up with if you found yourself single again.
My God what a retarded whore you are. Our hard-earned tax dollars must be taking good care of you and your half breed spawn.
I think I am dumber for reading that…there’s five minutes of my life I’ll never get back. but I can’t help but wonder, are there people out there really this dumb or is this a joke?
Thank you, I will continue to judge all I want. If you don’t want to hear what people have to say, keep your ridiculous bullshit off of websites like this. Ass.
Kelly, what happens if this current guy leaves you? are you going to bone some other guy in hopes that he gets your pregos so he can stay with you? hell, pretty soon you will have your own little litter of half siblings!
Thank you to everyone that had something to say. This was a project to prove how real cyber bullying is. Even to an adult that is 26, some other stories about teens on here were also part of this project. We were trying to see if anyone would be nice enough to step out of the norm and have encouraging words to say, obviously no one did. We had someone commit sucide in our community over what people had to say about their recent break up, it baffles me that so many people can be so rude, when you only know a small portion of their lives. But thank you again. There is no need for rude comments after this, and I only hope and pray that you stop giving people such a hard time.
Kelly,
If you had bothered to actually read some posts going back, you will find that many of them are full of words of encouragement and helpful suggestions. As for your suggestion that this is cyber bullying, all I have to say is, what a load of shit. If you don’t want people judging you and suggesting the choices you made in life were retarded, then don’t post your story on here for all the world to see. As we have said many times before, this site is called “howiwasdumped”, not “how I posted online and expected to get free therapy and hold hands and sing happy songs.” It is well know that I and many other commenters on this site are massive trolls, and many come to the site for the trolling comments alone.
They have fucking forums that are actually dedicated to relationship woes, couples going through divorce and difficult times. Hell, I bet they even have a goddamn polyamory forum somewhere completely dedicated to justifying the behavior of people like Linda a few stories back. Coming onto this site and expecting helpful advice is like going onto adultfriendfinder and expecting to be able to find a real relationship. Not one person here has suggested that you/OP take your life. While I would never condemn that someone take their life because of past mistakes, I will not hesitate to call you out on your shit. Maybe someone will read these comments and instead of saying “OMG I want to die now!!” they might be an adult and say “Boy, a lot of people sure seem to think that was really stupid of me, maybe I need to get my life together!” See, I was raised by parents who didn’t have a problem telling me when I was being a fucking idiot and surrounded myself with good people who also had no problem telling me I was being an idiot. There is no excuse in life for not having personal accountability for your actions and common sense, regardless of your background.
If a few anonymous comments is enough to make someone commit suicide, that person had some very deep seated psychological issues that were going on long before random people on the internet got to comment on their story. I would highly recommend that you focus your efforts into a worthwhile project, because this half ass study of yours doesn’t amount to a hill of beans and devalues the real cases of cyberbullying that do occur.
Sincerely,
A former suicide attempter.
This is not my story, and you are right I’m sure the person had a lot of problems going on in their life, but all it took was a complete stranger to push them over the edge. The project wasn’t to prove this particular site is all about cyber bullying it was to let the teens in our community be aware that posting things on the internet about their personal lifes isn’t something they should base their opinions about themselves on, that most people will have something negative to say. And to teach them not to judge other people by their past mistakes, and to understand no one is perfect.
Kelly I think you’re full of shit. You got butt hurt because you were called out on being desperate to find a daddy for your kids and just kept having more babies, and as a way to save face make up some stupid cyber bullying crap. Teens are stupid but they aren’t completely dumb and will know that a site like this is going to give advice and hugs and love. There’s hotlines and stuff for this. Nice try.
Kelly, I have to concur with Tunes and Chub on this one. We are not trying to cyber bully, we are just stating that your actions are messed up (even though you said they were not yours). You have three kids, by three different fathers… none of them stayed with you, and the current one may also leave you. You need to seek help, and stop living the life style of a jerry springer wet dream! see a shrink, please!
Kelly, What kind of fucking moron are you? You post this ridiculous story that gets people on this site to say both encouraging and negative things about the person in the story. When people start calling the judgment of said person into question you put your name on your comment and say that YOU have a job and support your kids etc etc. You come back later and say oh this really wasn’t my story but a cyber bullying study.
How can you sit there and make a bunch of shit up, keep playing along with the story and then say oh it wasn’t me. I’m wondering if maybe it really was you and you are just trying to make yourself look better, who knows, either way what you did is pretty messed up.
We have enough people out there that make severely bad judgment calls and have problems living the day to day soap opera they call life, we don’t need people making up what is most likely a very real situation as a study. Get over yourself.
I guess getting drowned is better than getting hit. I stopped reading. Fml
Plain and simple. Kelly is a troll sent here to get us to pay attention to her because her life is so pathetic, she has nothing better to do with it. She is the problem to this country. Lazy, psychologically deficient, pathological liars who expect a hand out and pat on the back because they woke up this morning.
Kelly, you are a moron, and a liar. The changes in your story merit no further attention. And your lying is no way to get attention.
Bad attention whore! Bad! Bad!
I read a couple comments, and I have to say, I am really glad I only bothered to read a sentence in. Very very glad.
u had unprotected sex with black men and then wound up pregnant and alone. why are u surprised?
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